When testing context cancelation behavior do not rely on context
timeouts. Use explicit checks in all such tests. In closeDB
convert the simple check for zero open conns with a wait loop
for zero open conns.

Fixes #19024
Fixes #19041

Change-Id: Iecfcc4467e91249fceb21ffd1f7c62c58140d8e9
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