In some cases the netpoll code can cause a spurious wakeup. This is
normally harmless, as the woken up code simply retries the operation.
However, for connect, the test we were using to see whether the
connect had succeeded (setsockopt(SO_ERROR)) was not reliable in the
case of a spurious wakeup.  Change to using a reliable test (getpeername).
On Darwin we used a different technique: a second call to connect;
change Darwin to use getpeername as well.

Return the result of getpeername to avoid having to call it twice.

Fixes #19289.

Change-Id: I119ec8e7a41f482f1e590d4c65a37f6103fa22d9
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/45815
Run-TryBot: Ian Lance Taylor <iant@golang.org>
TryBot-Result: Gobot Gobot <gobot@golang.org>
Reviewed-by: Brad Fitzpatrick <bradfitz@golang.org>