Before this change, grow work was done only
during map writes to ensure multithreaded safety.
This can lead to maps remaining in a partially
grown state for a long time, potentially forever.
This change allows grow work to happen during reads,
which will lead to grow work finishing sooner, making
the resulting map smaller and faster.

Grow work is not done in parallel.  Reads can
happen in parallel while grow work is happening.

R=golang-dev, dvyukov, khr, iant
CC=golang-dev
https://golang.org/cl/8852047