All the other tools and commands print the usage text to standard error.
"go tool compile" was the odd one out, so fix it.

While at it, make objabi.Flagprint a bit more Go-like with an io.Writer
instead of a file descriptor, which is likely a leftover from the C
days.

Fixes #23234.

Change-Id: I9abf2e79461e61c8c8bfaee2c6bf8faf26e0e6c3
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/85418
Run-TryBot: Daniel Martí <mvdan@mvdan.cc>
TryBot-Result: Gobot Gobot <gobot@golang.org>
Reviewed-by: Matthew Dempsky <mdempsky@google.com>