The data file should be opened when a Conn is first
established, rather than waiting for the first Read or
Write.

Upon Close, we now make sure to try to close both, the
ctl as well as data files and set both to nil, even in
the face of errors, instead of returning early.

The Accept call was not setting the remote address
of the connection properly. Now, we read the correct
file.

Make functions that establish Conn use newTCPConn
or newUDPConn.

R=rsc, rminnich, ality, dave
CC=golang-dev
https://golang.org/cl/7228068