Previously, we wrote "kill" to the process control file
to kill a program. This is problematic because it doesn't
let the program gracefully exit.

This matters especially if the process we're killing is a
Go program. On Unix, sending SIGKILL to a Go program will
automatically kill all runtime threads. On Plan 9, there
are no threads so when the program wants to exit it has to
somehow signal all of the runtime processes. It can't do
this if we mercilessly kill it by writing to it's control
file.

Instead, we now send it a note to invoke it's note handler
and let it perform any cleanup before exiting.

LGTM=rsc
R=rsc, 0intro
CC=golang-codereviews
https://golang.org/cl/74440044