This CL ensures we use the correct socket options for
passive and active open sockets.

For the passive open sockets created by Listen functions,
additional SO_REUSEADDR, SO_REUSEPORT options are required
for the quick service restart and/or multicasting.

For the active open sockets created by Dial functions, no
additional options are required.

R=golang-dev, dave, bradfitz, rsc
CC=golang-dev
https://golang.org/cl/7795050