In the first attempt to enforce the SETTINGS_MAX_HEADER_LIST_SIZE
(https://go-review.googlesource.com/15751), the enforcement happened
in the hpack decoder and the hpack decoder returned errors on Write
and Close if the limit was violated. This was incorrect because the
decoder is used over the life of the connection and all subsequent
requests and could therefore get out of sync.

Instead, this moves the counting of the limit up to the http2 package
in the serverConn type, and replaces the hpack counting mechanism with
a simple on/off switch. When SetEmitEnabled is set false, the header
field emit callbacks will be suppressed and the hpack Decoder will do
less work (less CPU and garbage) if possible, but will still return
nil from Write and Close on valid input, and will still stay in sync
it the stream.

The http2 Server then returns a 431 error if emits were disabled while
processing the HEADER or any CONTINUATION frames.

Fixes golang/go#12843

Change-Id: I3b41aaefc6c6ee6218225f8dc62bba6ae5fe8f2d
Reviewed-on: https://go-review.googlesource.com/15733Reviewed-by: Andrew Gerrand <adg@golang.org>